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stubborn tenpin: are you busy
nun panty raid: not really
nun panty raid: watching quantum leap mostly
stubborn tenpin: i see
nun panty raid: what about you?
nun panty raid: and clips from rock of love charm school--guilty pleasure of 2008
stubborn tenpin: im getting ready for bed
nun panty raid: yeah i should do that too
stubborn tenpin: i wanna keep playing mirrors edge but i wont be able to sleep
stubborn tenpin: i just took my ambien anyway
nun panty raid: i'm all stuffed up. i've been sick for a month. time for nyquil
nun panty raid: hey, that sounds better
nun panty raid: enjoy your sleep. have a good night alvin
stubborn tenpin: i think im addicted to it though, i cant sleep without it
stubborn tenpin: it kinda sucks but oh well
nun panty raid: if you don't take it what happens
stubborn tenpin: i just kinda toss and turn all night
stubborn tenpin: going in and out of sleep
stubborn tenpin: its such a catch 22
nun panty raid: when did you start taking ambien?
nun panty raid: have you taken anything else?
stubborn tenpin: dont take it to get off of it, but get no sleep and be groggy and stressed, or take it and sleep but be groggy and paranoid about addiction
nun panty raid: yeah, that's terrible
nun panty raid: has anything else worked for you? to help you sleep?
stubborn tenpin: i took it for awhile at first like at the beginning of the year and then i got off it...but in august my apartment flooded and andrea was away for a month
stubborn tenpin: so i couldnt sleep cause i was so stressed
stubborn tenpin: so i got back on ambien again, but i havent been off it since
nun panty raid: brb. keep typing
stubborn tenpin: at first i loved it cause it would knock me out so hard. i sometimes would drink and take ambien and i loved the feeling
stubborn tenpin: but now sometimes i black out and i dont remember falling asleep
stubborn tenpin: thats actually been happening a lot lately
stubborn tenpin: god im typing a mile a minute im sorry clare i dont mean to lay all of this on you
stubborn tenpin: last week i started taking paxil too, so one night i had paxil and ambien in my system and i said FUCK IT and pounded two beers
stubborn tenpin: but after that night i felt so scared because of how irresponsibile i acted
stubborn tenpin: i tried just taking paxil cause it makes me sleepy but that doesnt work, so paxil in the day, ambien at night
nun panty raid: no no don't apologize
nun panty raid: i'm reading right now
nun panty raid: the rest of what you typed i mean
stubborn tenpin: ok
stubborn tenpin: i have problems man
nun panty raid: paxil does make you sleepy?
nun panty raid: does it help with your anxiety?
stubborn tenpin: in a different way it makes me sleepy
nun panty raid: i was prescribed paxil a while back but i never had a chance to try it
nun panty raid: relaxed?
stubborn tenpin: i think its to early to say it has helped my anxiety
stubborn tenpin: it anything ive become more paranoid
stubborn tenpin: everytime i hears anoise in the apartment i have to know what it is
stubborn tenpin: caise if i dont know then i assume its a mice
stubborn tenpin: and i cant stand to kill another mice
nun panty raid: so does your body feel relaxed but your head is just going?
stubborn tenpin: plus im afraid of them
stubborn tenpin: bi i have something wrong in my lower abdomen area
stubborn tenpin: sometimes its soft, then itll ache but theres something constantly there and i am constantly mindful of its presence
nun panty raid: have you seen a doctor?
nun panty raid: who is prescribing the ambien and paxil?
stubborn tenpin: twice now
stubborn tenpin: annd im goinb back to see my actual PCP
stubborn tenpin: but hes the worst
stubborn tenpin: then i have to go to GI clinic
nun panty raid: you should definitely talk to your doctor about that. if you feel that it's starting to get in the way of your normal function. i know that you know that but if you feel like you're not happy or relaxed or getting the effect you want, you should try to find something else that might work better.
stubborn tenpin: everyone says you have to try it ffor a month
stubborn tenpin: i was gonna go to the sleep clinic with would have been awesome, but i cant get it work in my schedule
stubborn tenpin: i get scarred...health ledger dided cause of this shit
stubborn tenpin: but sometimes im too incoherent to think and ill do more
nun panty raid: yeah i hear a lot of great things about the sleep clinic
nun panty raid: do you feel drugged most of the day?
nun panty raid: do you think the dosage is too high or that you've built a really high tolerance?
nun panty raid: i had a roommate who went to a sleep clinic and found out she had something with her circadian rhythm
nun panty raid: so she was in therapy a lot
nun panty raid: well, not a lot
stubborn tenpin: i feel like shit during the day. the pxil is making it worse to the point where coffee and naps at work dont change anything
stubborn tenpin: ive definitely built a high tolernace to ambien
stubborn tenpin: because just a half tab before would mak eme so happy and sleepy
stubborn tenpin: now there was a point when i was taking 1 and half or two
stubborn tenpin: but i stopped dooing that
nun panty raid: have you tried alternatives? like valerian root?
stubborn tenpin: god im really tempeted to post this in the blog
stubborn tenpin: i havent tried that but one of andreas friends mentioned it
nun panty raid: if you feel comfortable, you should.
stubborn tenpin: over the counter?
nun panty raid: i remember you telling me that you had a hard time sleeping but i didn't know about the ambien
stubborn tenpin: i have melatoni over the table
nun panty raid: herbal
nun panty raid: yes, melatonin. that stops working after a while too though
stubborn tenpin: that seemed to work inbeteween my ambien periods
stubborn tenpin: damn it
stubborn tenpin: yeah its bad here man
stubborn tenpin: its getting so close to the possibility of leaving, and im feeling like the worst since ive ever been
stubborn tenpin: leaving*chicago*
stubborn tenpin: i dont kno where all of this came from all of a sudden
nun panty raid: do you think it's being in chicago, alvin?
stubborn tenpin: i pretty much know thats why
stubborn tenpin: specifically in this apartment
stubborn tenpin: all this bad shit is happening
stubborn tenpin: ]the biggest thing i deal with daily is wheter or not a mouse will be inside our apartment
stubborn tenpin: i keep hearing noises in the walls
nun panty raid: have you been happy there at all though?
stubborn tenpin: it makes me tighten up
stubborn tenpin: there have been momemnts of course
stubborn tenpin: the simple amazing meal, seeing other people in the midwest
stubborn tenpin: i mean chicago is an awesome city that i hate, and then will regret not loving
stubborn tenpin: i love the seasons excepth when i have to do the shoveling
nun panty raid: do you still plan on moving to california still?
stubborn tenpin: thats still unknown
stubborn tenpin: it depends where dr dre gets in for residency
stubborn tenpin: its like applying to college all over
stubborn tenpin: shes interviewing in the bay,LA,Portland and Seattle
stubborn tenpin: shes gonna leave me again for a month so i really gotta keep the ambien going
nun panty raid: does the ambien help you cope with her not being around?
nun panty raid: it's so hard to meet people when you move to a new place.
nun panty raid: it makes me think of nyc and how you have to really really throw yourself out there and move outside of your comfort zone constantly to make friends and even then sometimes it doesn't materialize or you can't connect.
nun panty raid: so it's nice to have your significant other there.
stubborn tenpin: i do appriciate her so much
stubborn tenpin: the bad thing is ive become so clingy
stubborn tenpin: i mean she could have left me for a month and then i would have been fine, but that didnt happen
stubborn tenpin: ive never had to deal with a flood, i had to rearrange the apartment on my own, clean the floor, and i just wished andrea could hear me
stubborn tenpin: i need her to make choices for us
stubborn tenpin: and i need her to keep myself happy
stubborn tenpin: but when she leaves for long periods...its so dead over here
stubborn tenpin: cause i have no one to kick it with, so i just come home every night
stubborn tenpin: watch tv
stubborn tenpin: eat frozen meal
stubborn tenpin: then it gets really slow after dinner
stubborn tenpin: i should go to be
stubborn tenpin: i want topost this though with your permissios
nun panty raid: yes you definitely have my permission
stubborn tenpin: alright
stubborn tenpin: sorry
nun panty raid: doyou really feel that way alvin?
stubborn tenpin: ive just had a lot on my mind lately
nun panty raid: about needing her to feel happy?
stubborn tenpin: yeah i struggle with that
stubborn tenpin: ive sorta spoiled her
stubborn tenpin: at first i didnt mind, but you make bad habits
nun panty raid: do you think that if given time, you could be happy on your own. not meaning a split, just being comfortable in your own skin
stubborn tenpin: right now id say no
nun panty raid: yeah, it's difficult to break certain cycles in relationships, but i don't think impossible.
stubborn tenpin: but i knew a time where there would have been a chance
nun panty raid: when would you say that is?
stubborn tenpin: just like when we started dating, you know
stubborn tenpin: i just let the women get whatever
stubborn tenpin: so its manifested into things like bi weekly massages, her picking the restaurant, not wanting to see the nightlife
nun panty raid: but i think that you can change that now, if you want to. it's just going to take a serious transitional period. and a lot is probably going to have to happen before you reach that point if you're both willing to move that direction.
stubborn tenpin: i mean yeah shes busy but there were opportunities
stubborn tenpin: i coudlnt even bring her if i wanted to shed want to go home at 11
stubborn tenpin: so i would just go alone
stubborn tenpin: but im so tired of going out alone
nun panty raid: do you think you could tell her that it means a lot to you for you to be able to pick the restaurant. like when you guys are deciding one night. is there an open dialogue about those kinds of things or would that be hard?
nun panty raid: i understand that
stubborn tenpin: its not like she ever asks, she just never wants to go to wheerever i ask
stubborn tenpin: it really doesnt matter to me because i can always find something to eat
nun panty raid: yeah, so it's not really worth making an issue out of right
nun panty raid: ?
nun panty raid: if you did suggest another place and insisted on going there, do you think it would cause conflict?
nun panty raid: i'm sorry to ask so many questions
stubborn tenpin: yeah i went over it with my therapist. youre right thats what she said, but for some reason i bring it up because its an easy example
stubborn tenpin: i really appriciate the questions
stubborn tenpin: i have all of this inside of me with no one to talk about it to
stubborn tenpin: i still feel shitty for even talking about all of this with you
stubborn tenpin: if i suggested a place and really wanted to go there, she will either say go by yourself, or try it but shell end up picking something she hats so she wont go there again
stubborn tenpin: if i go alone and i tell her its good, then shell want to go
nun panty raid: don't feel bad about telling me. i feel more clued in with what's going on in your life.
stubborn tenpin: ive wanted to tell you
stubborn tenpin: but we keep missing each other
nun panty raid: how do you feel about everything?
nun panty raid: yeah i feel like we haven't really been able to catch up.
stubborn tenpin: im overwhelmed, and stressed out
nun panty raid: how do you feel towards andrea?
nun panty raid: have you harbored any resentment?
stubborn tenpin: right now very clingy. it feels like my whole job is to make sure she finishes med school
stubborn tenpin: then shell take care of me
nun panty raid: or are there certain things that you really want/need from her that you feel that you can't ask for anymore?
stubborn tenpin: sex
stubborn tenpin: lol
stubborn tenpin: i ask jokingly
stubborn tenpin: but yeah its always when she wants to
nun panty raid: i remember you telling me about this before.
stubborn tenpin: she cant do it whenever it want to but at least have some compromise
stubborn tenpin: even with errands, she'll forget to do them
nun panty raid: yeah, that's tricky because there's no real way to ask for it. plus, people hold their genitals hostage if they aren't in the mood, i think.
stubborn tenpin: oh yeah im familiar with that
nun panty raid: have you guys ever talked about how she's going to take care of you when she's done?
nun panty raid: and how much more time does she have?
stubborn tenpin: but then it flips, like i dont want to give my genitalia to her now
stubborn tenpin: just cause
stubborn tenpin: well after shes done shes going to make money right away as a resident
stubborn tenpin: so i can go back to school
stubborn tenpin: so shes going to be doing a lot, but ill have a part time job maybe
stubborn tenpin: but id rather focus on work
stubborn tenpin: i gotta go to bed
stubborn tenpin: im running out of gas
nun panty raid: that's awesome. maybe you just need to be around people with the same interests as you. people that are separate from you and andrea's unit. you know what i mean? of else that becomes the main focus and everything sort of revolves around that.
stubborn tenpin: i know thats my main problem
nun panty raid: i should get to bed too. nyquil didn't work at all.
stubborn tenpin: take more!
stubborn tenpin: im gonna take more ambien jk
nun panty raid: i think i'm going to.
stubborn tenpin: lol
stubborn tenpin: alright
stubborn tenpin: well thanks
nun panty raid: alright man
stubborn tenpin: i feel less stressed already
nun panty raid: anytime. feel free to call, email, whatever. really.
nun panty raid: good
stubborn tenpin: i want to but i dont know it i willgood, then shell want to go